It is one thing to spot a narcissist, whether it be in the family, your spouse, a person of authority in society or a work colleague, but what about their victims? Many victims don’t even know that they are victims themselves, just that “something” (if not all) is not right. Perhaps a friend is not what they used to be?
There are victims right under our noses – just like there are narcissists, right under our noses.
I’d like to recommend reading Narcissistic Victim Syndrome, by Jeni Mawter. She has written a beautifully eloquent post, which covers both narcissists and their victims. I won’t copy everything that she wrote, but here is the concluding paragraph:
Victims need validation and education about what has happened to them. They need information about the medical condition of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and its toxicity in relationships. They need education about how they have contributed to their situation through co-dependence. They need therapy to deal with symptoms. They will need support to remove themselves from their narcissistic relationship, and to not repeat the cycle of abuse in their next relationship. One of their greatest challenges may come from not being believed by significant others, either because these others have not seen the private face of the narcissist or because they themselves are in the narcissist’s thrall.
It is a terrible tragedy that many people are unable to reach their full potential due to other’s who constantly belittle them. I urge anyone who identifies themselves as being a possible victim to believe in themselves enough to seek help and support to enable them to overcome their situation.
Life is so much more beautiful without narcissists…